When you have a goal in mind, when you want more for yourself, you make the decision to create change. There will always be a voice that tries to stop you.
It might say,
What will people say?
What will people think?
No one will support me.
My friends/family will think I’m an idiot.
I haven’t got time.
I don’t know where to start.
I feel uncomfortable.
A lot of things will come up that will try to stop you changing.
You might decide to go along and start anyway.
You gain momentum, make a decision and go for it.
And something doesn’t go to plan.
You get sick.
Your kids get sick.
Your day job gets busy.
You didn’t sleep well last night.
You have a wedding/party/event to go to.
Your routine, momentum slows down or halts.
Then you’re stuck.
The voice starts again.
You’re a failure.
You said you would do that and you didn’t.
Everyone else is now further ahead of me.
If I start now they’ll know I didn’t show up and think I’m a failure.
I can’t do this.
I’m embarrassed. I don’t deserve a new life. I don’t deserve success.
My mother always told me…,
Blah blah blah
And then it’s a year later.
Two years later. Five.
And you are still in the same place.
But you’re feeling worse because you started something, it didn’t work out so now you’re really stuck and afraid.
It doesn’t have to be like that.
The way to start again is just decide you want it.
Recognise the fear, the voice telling you not to for what it is – a bully.
A bully who is scared to let you shine. Who is jealous of your light.
Make small changes.
Get out of bed a little earlier.
Have one less coffee.
Make one phone call.
Spend 30 minutes planning the assignment, and do one thing of action.
Be more present today.
Recognise the negative thought and flip it to a positive one.
What would your best friend say?
Be your best friend.
Be your own cheering squad.
Light your path and each day take a step further.
There will be days you take a few steps back. That’s ok.
As long as the next day you pick yourself up and continue to move forward.
You can do this.
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